What I have learnt from the Corona Virus so far…

It has been a while since the first Corona Virus patient appeared in the media. Since then lots of things happened. What changed in my life and what I have learnt.

  1. I was not ready. I did not have masks, disinfectant gels and alcohol cleaning products at home. Once I ventured out, they were sold out.

Solution: I will need to keep few of those in my storage room from now on and maybe adding some gloves and goggles.

2.  I was touching my face, rubbing my eyes and so on without knowing. This is apparently a big no-no. Bad habit. Wearing a mask is something that helps you to stop that.

Solution: I remind myself not to touch my eyes or face. Washing hands every time before any meal or snack while avoiding using hands when eating.

3.  I followed lots of social media and that made me feel more panicky and unsettled.

Solution: I chose channels and you tubers who seemed straight to the point with practical advice and cut out or reduced the rest.

4. I stayed indoors a lot. Actually going out and getting some fresh air is good provided you are not on a crowed metro or surrounded by people.

Solution: I avoided social gatherings (hot pot style dining), I reduced hand-shaking (there were big clusters of infection from social meetings) and I avoid small poorly ventilated places.

4. I thought that people will cope and will stay positive. But many people started to feel down, were extremely bored or worried.

Solution: I have upgraded my tech skills and stayed in contact with everybody via Skype, email, Google Meet and so on. Basically I stayed connected and did not withdraw although there were times when I did not want to talk someone and wanted to do my things.

5. I always thought that I am good at cleaning but had to ‘upgrade’ my skills.

Solution: I am more focused on disinfection. Cleaning doorknobs and switches, bathroom taps and flushes more often (plus keeping shoes by the main door and disposing of the face masks properly)

There might be more points I learn as we go. If this post helps you a bit, I will be really happy.

Stay safe and stay healthy 🙂

Update:

My head is spinning from all the news coming from all sides. I am taking some extra time  to be in a peaceful environment. I am reducing media in general just for morning and evening news. Not checking updates during the day as there are too many and some of them are fake. I am taking extra Vitamin C and Vitamin D. Drinking Apple Cider Vinegar with honey in the afternoon for a quick pick me up. I heard that probiotics are also a good for prevention. Unfortunately, I don’ have any at home. I am not taking any chances. Wearing mask when out and practising  social distancing. I don’t laugh at these measures as they worked during the Spanish Flu and were verified as an efficient tools by it. I really like this doc and the info he puts out. If you want to check him out follow this link:Dr. John Campbell and his videos.

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On toxic people and on being yourself

This is an unusual topic for me but it maybe useful for some of my readers.  I am just putting few thoughts on the paper about toxic people and how to deal with them. Mainly because I came across few of them quite recently.

One of the decisions I have made few years ago was that I will be myself – not pretending anything and not playing social games. I feel lot more balanced and happier within myself. I stress lot less and I worry about things lot less. Lots of weight is off my shoulders as I care lot less what the others think or what they might think. So that is the good part.

However, not everyone likes it. And yes, I can confirm: “You can be yourself (as is promoted by so many influencers), but there is a cost.” You need to ask yourself if you are willing to bear the cost. Because – you will meet toxic people – there is no doubt about it. And they will test you and your decision. They will laugh at you, to your face or behind your back. They will try to make a little ‘haters’ group and laugh on your account.

It has been my recent experience and I can’t say I am above it. But it is not something that will overshadow everything I have achieved or I am achieving. It does make me sad if anything. If you are in the similar situation, realising the following may help you:

  1. There will always be one person (or more) that is toxic. They will pop up sooner or later. Simply because you can’t be loved by all. No matter how hard you try. So accept this as a fact and don’t be paralysed by this when you come across people like that. You will already know, that they have to come your way and you will be ready.
  2. Remind yourself that toxic people are that way for deeper reasons (which you can’t fix). Simply because the reasons come from deeper layers within them and were formed for many years throughout their childhood to their adulthood. It took many painful experience on their part to become that way. And although logically you would expect them to be nice (because they know very well what it feels like when some is horrible to someone) – most of them are not able to do it. They cannot leave that shadow behind and rather are consumed by it.
  3. What helps me when I meet people like that – is to imagine them as kids. What happened to this kid standing in front of you? Why he/she has to act that way? Do they suffer from lack of love? Was their self-confidence badly undermined? Were they ignored and ridiculed by people who were meant to give them unconditional love? I assure you, the answer is yes. People who grew up in love don’t feel the need to be toxic. They do not see any reason for it and they don’t get any pleasure from laughing at others. And that brings me to the next point.
  4. Toxic people get pleasure from hating on others. The pleasure gets even stronger if they find like-minded people who will chime in. And yes, it sucks that it is you who they are laughing at. But know this. That feeling they get from it, is very temporary. It is a brief moment. It will never bring them long-term satisfaction because the black hole in them is getting bigger every time they try to hurt someone. It is a paradox but they themselves have to realise this in order to close that big black space inside them. It is their journey. For you, it is enough just to know that. It is not really about you. It is about them. Their emptiness inside them. The beast that they have to feed but the beast that is never satisfied. The beast that will eat them up or the beast they have to defeat one day.
  5. We always think:”Oh there must be something wrong with me, if they are hating on me. ” However, it is exactly the opposite. Toxic people have a deep rooted problem. It is so deep that it gets outside their inner world and effects the environment around them.

What I do when I come across toxic people: I stay away. I don’t play their game. I don’t socialise with them.  I don’t pretend I like them. I stay polite and I try to be neutral. I don’t want to be pulled into their game and hate them back. That leads nowhere. At the same time I strengthen my own circle of people, who are there for me. I do things that make me happy. I think positive and creative thoughts. I socialise with people I can trust. And I try to lear from it all. I know it is not easy but I know that it can be done…

I wish you luck, strength and happiness dear friends 🙂

 

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