Once I wrote my previous post on toxic people an interesting thing happened – the people who bothered me and in a way inspired me to write the post went away. What happened? Have they read my post? Have they recognised themselves and changed their behaviour? Well, that is very unlikely – although one never knows.
I think what really happened was that once I wrote my problem down on paper – my mind was able to take a distance and dissolve it. Of course those people are still there but somehow our paths don’t cross or their poison does not pierce my shield. At least for now. I can definitely say that by writing down my feelings, I was able to let it go and direct my attention on other things. Moreover the response I have received made me realise that other people facing very similar challenges.
My main takeaway from this experience is:
- don’t keep your feeling bottled up inside and share them in a way that is easiest for you
- draw strength from others who went through similar experiences
- don’t accept the status quo and think of different ways you can change it
- talk to experts
- take a look at the problem from a distance
And remember – there is no shame in feeling down, alone or different!!!