I hear this so often, yet until recently I would not give you a clear answer. Of course, I could always make something up. I could can say something to my parents and something different to my kids. I could blurt something out without thinking about it too much. Especially when I wanted to sound deep and philosophical.
My purpose has changed over the years. I went through different stages and each seemed to have fairly clear purpose. But I never thought about it that much. I took what was there in front of me – what was told to me by my parents, friends, classmates, coworkers, bosses, media. I think, you know where I am getting with is.
Staying at home because of Covid brought this fundamental question back to my mind. I have more time to think about it and I am happy to say that ‘something’ is emerging. It is deeply personal and maybe slightly unexpected for people around me. I hope you will not mind that I will keep it private. I did not write this post to share it anyway. The reason why I am writing about is that I feel lot more calmer, balanced, joyful – maybe I should liken it to the feeling of ‘coming home.’
I often write about things that worked for me. And this is one of them. So all I wanted to say with this post is: “Find your purpose and you will be happier…”
One thing that I have noticed around me is an increase in tension. Many people seem to be under a lot of stress. They seem more stressed and more sensitive. I am not saying everyone but definitely a large number of people. And I am one of them for sure.
Staying at home uncovered lots of things to me. Although it is great to have extra time at home, it brings other unexpected side effects. We are forced to face ourselves and we are forced to see things we did not see before – simply because there was no time for it. Some of it might be surprising, revealing and yes – stressful.
So staying at home actually means going back home – literally and metaphorically speaking. We are uncovering layers that have not been touched maybe for years. While all of this is going on – the outside world is not the most welcoming or kind.
I am not writing this to make us feel sorry for ourselves. Rather to point out that self-care is more important the ever. It is a must. Here are some things I have added to my list to be more mindful of:
peaceful and quiet environment with lots of light, plants and fresh air
time off the media, watching news just once a day, scrolling through ups no longer than 2o minutes
listening to soothing music or meditating at least 10 minutes
physical exercises – adding variety
eating fresh foods and limiting unhealthy choices
reaching out to friends
more screen breaks and resting my eyes more often
learning something new (craft, skill, language and so on)
Take a good care dear friends and put yourself first 🙂